Living Into the THIRD Third of Your Life

For many people, the thought of getting old is scary, but in reality, it doesn’t have to be. As the saying goes, “age is just a number” can really apply here IF we are focused on what it is that we need to be doing.  

My guest, Christine A Smith, talks about her new book, “The Act of Aging” and the prompts that she includes in the book to help us deal with the challenges that we may face at some point later in our lives and how we can deal with those challenges and tough conversations NOW when we are fully capable of handling those concerns.

Nobody prepares you for how you’re going to feel in the THIRD third of your life. There is plenty of help for financial, retirement, and estate planning. What we need are instructions for pre-planning healthy emotions and relationships.

In “The Act of Aging” series, author Christine A. Smith (founder of PreAct Your Age and the Aging Better Network) shows us how to navigate today our future feelings. She describes each challenge as an Aspect of Aging. It is how we address those concerns that really set us apart.

About Christine: Christine A. Smith has spent hours…and years…in many private residences. She has served alongside hundreds of family caregivers in these homes. Loved ones of her clients confided concerns for their own future aging. Those relatives, associates, and friends ALSO described successful pre-planning.

Christine’s concept started with a SIGH. Not just that ‘sigh of regret’, but SIGHS OF RELIEF. These are the sounds in the voices of people who are facing their futures. Between work shifts, Christine wrote The Act of Aging book, scribble scraps of ideas for the Aging Better Network website, and created the PreAct Your Age VERY Prompted Journal.

Connect with Christine on LinkedIn and on the web at agingbetternetwork.com

Transcript (auto-generated; may contain errors):

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Jennifer Glass: Hello and welcome to another episode of MOJO: The Meaning of Life and Business.

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Jennifer Glass: For a lot of people

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Jennifer Glass: aging is one of those ideas that we want to think about at some point down the road we want to think about. Oh, we’re not going to get that old so quickly. We’ve got so much time.

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Jennifer Glass: It’s like the conversation. Are you buying life insurance, you not buying life insurance at some point? Everybody’s got that conversation just like they do when they create a well. But when it comes down to really thinking and pre-planning.

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Jennifer Glass: for when you are older it becomes one of those important pieces that you really do want to be giving serious thought to, because it is going to make a lot of difference

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Jennifer Glass: in terms of what you can do today.

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Jennifer Glass: and the kinds of conversations that you can be having today as opposed to tomorrow, when you don’t know exactly how you are going to be in a particular position.

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Jennifer Glass: And so I’ve got a really incredible guest with me today who is going to be sharing so many ideas and thoughts on pre-planning your aging process

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Jennifer Glass: that you are going to definitely want to be reaching out to her. But before I bring my guest in, let me tell you a little bit about Christine.

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Jennifer Glass: Christine Smith

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Jennifer Glass: came in

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Jennifer Glass: She came in as a caregiver.

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Jennifer Glass: and when you know caregivers, they really do become part of the family.

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Jennifer Glass: They are there to help our loved ones

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Jennifer Glass: some of life’s up and downs

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Jennifer Glass: when it comes down to what it is that we’re doing, though

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Jennifer Glass: our caregivers become even more important because they’re really there to let us know.

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Jennifer Glass: Do we need to be paying attention to something else.

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Jennifer Glass: Do we need to be seeing something else that’s happening?

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Jennifer Glass: And so Christine is here, and

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Jennifer Glass: has been an expert in the aging process. A.

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Jennifer Glass: I think that’s one of her coin terms

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Jennifer Glass: and something that you’re definitely going to want to know more about.

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Jennifer Glass: and about her new book that she is working on all about the aging process. So, Christine, thank you so much for being my guest today.

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Christine Smith: You’re welcome. This is such a privilege, and I do love interacting with you Well, in various ways, sometimes through Linkedin.

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Jennifer Glass: Yes, thank you so much. So.

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Jennifer Glass: Christine, let me ask you. Aging is one of those things like, I said. We don’t want to think about it right. We want it to be way down the road.

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Jennifer Glass: but we know that there’s some things that we need to be focused on, and some things that we really need to be paying attention to.

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Jennifer Glass: you, I I guess. Here really, the big thing is the book

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Jennifer Glass: that you wrote to give the prompts on how to deal with aging. Tell me more about that, and how.

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Jennifer Glass: our friends who are listening

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Jennifer Glass: can really start thinking more strategically

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Jennifer Glass: and better about the aging process.

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Christine Smith: I’m really glad to say the book is written, and I simply put it in front of people who study aging, but also they are business people who have advised me that, though I have all the information, it’s really important.

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Christine Smith: even once to have more than a 10 min conversation, let alone

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Christine Smith: be faced with several, maybe a few dozen aspects, general and very common aspects of aging

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Christine Smith: before they’re going. You know that this is just too much. I I really don’t want to think about this, or it’s a really unpleasant subject. Can we talk about this some other time? But all of those boomers would agree that

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Christine Smith: noticing that other people consider you to be older, or maybe you are the oldest person in the room. They would all agree that each part of their life, whether it was a relationship, maybe a new relationship, whether it was

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Christine Smith: part of their life. They they’ve wanted it to turn out successfully. They’ve wanted to be informed they’ve wanted to have some plans in place. They want to talk to a experts or someone who has some experience before they go on that big vacation.

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Christine Smith: So all these things they’ve been planning towards. They’ve wanted to pre

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Christine Smith: And then there’s this word aging, and everybody goes.

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Christine Smith: you know old is bad, new is good, young is good. That’s what you want to AIM toward. I don’t want to AIM toward this.

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Christine Smith: but we all know it’s not going to go away just because you avoid the subject.

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Christine Smith: So I sure noticed that, being an in home caregiver

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Christine Smith: strategy a way of planning for their own aging future. And others we’re saying, I don’t. I don’t even know where to start. It’s all been about mom or dad. I I don’t know who to go to about this. I’m

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Christine Smith: hoping I don’t get old very soon, because I need to take care of them, and that’s why I started writing. This book was for people who either want to avoid it or feel like. They just don’t have the time for themselves. So it is a prompted journal, and it gives you a lot of ideas

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Christine Smith: reward yourself after you’ve gone through all of the ideas that I give you there. That is a huge, long answer. Did I answer like 3 questions at once.

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Jennifer Glass: and it was the perfect answer.

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Jennifer Glass: And it’s really important to have those conversations like we were saying, because you want to do it at a time that you can really be there to express your wishes.

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Jennifer Glass: not known or altogether ignored, simply because you may not be in a position to have those conversations. And again, like we said in the Introduction, it’s really all about having that

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Jennifer Glass: awkwardness earlier, even if it is a little bit awkward, simply because you know that what you’re doing is going to be exactly what you want. A lot of people even figure out their own funerals, and not to get morbid here. But I mean they figure out exactly what to do. And

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Jennifer Glass: at the time when it was going to happen. Some Presidents have also pre-planned that final goodbye. And so there’s a lot that happens when we are in that position. And so, Christine, it’s great that you are there to really be giving people

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Jennifer Glass: that tool to allow them to have these conversations. So thank you.

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Christine Smith: It’s likely that you will do a lot of living

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Christine Smith: There will be a lot of changes in the way that your relationships.

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Christine Smith: dance. I’ll say there’s a dance. You’ve always been leading the dance. You’ve always been.

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Christine Smith: I see them as vulnerable or needing help making decisions, or they just don’t know what’s available today, because the way things were 10 years ago seems to be good enough, and there’s a point which other people think

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Christine Smith: I know what’s better for you. My aging loved one, or my friend, or whatever you know, and that’s that’s why

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Christine Smith: I feel that right now. I’m 62 years old.

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Christine Smith: giant issues of aging, but I know that they are going to happen, and I plan to talk with a friend. Oh, this Friday night.

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Christine Smith: and when we get together and ask that person.

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Christine Smith: You don’t have a short conversation on aspects of aging. It’s really easy to ease into that conversation through talking about your parents, because you see them as aging. But here we are in that boomer era, and to and to talk with them into document.

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Christine Smith: to communicate and to even practice how I want a general aspect of my aging to go. In other words, what’s emotionally important to me.

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Christine Smith: is emotionally important in my life. So a friend, someone who means me no harm, and hopes the best for me

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Christine Smith: to know my wishes on just a part of living as I age. She’s about 10 years younger than I am. I consider that perfect, and she cares about me, and what I say, so i’m going to be intentional

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Christine Smith: to bring up one of the aspects of aging one of the issues.

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Christine Smith: and let this person know if this was happening, then this would be most important to me emotionally.

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Christine Smith: and would you be willing to step forward on my behalf if I was unwilling or unable? You know I just didn’t have the capacity in the moment i’m not dying.

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Christine Smith: I’m living, but I just don’t have the capacity in the moment. Maybe I don’t have the emotional capacity, because i’m going through something really tough, like a diagnosis or death in the family. But this person would step forward for me in that situation, and the situation could be.

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Christine Smith: that’s Why, there’s a lot in those pages, because I give a bunch of scenarios where you can find yourself. You can say now that would be important to me. It always has been my my image in the public.

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Christine Smith: or how I’m relating to my kids, or it could be. The most important thing to me is that i’m

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Christine Smith: moving into a situation where i’m assisted by others, and I won’t be clinging to all of my knick knacks. Maybe that is the important emotional thing. There’s just so many things that I’ve seen through the years that are really common from home to home to home that are.

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Christine Smith: I cause a lot of consternation if you’re having to talk about it during the crisis. But if you talk about it ahead of time, it is awkward. It’s odd.

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Christine Smith: that gives them the opportunity to say, Wow!

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Christine Smith: I think I would be different than you. I think this would be the most important thing.

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Christine Smith: There’s the encouragement. Communicate that to someone who cares about you and reward yourself, you know. Give it Ha! Do an action

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Christine Smith: I can talk about getting old and look.

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Christine Smith: in these situations, and they are very general, very common, and pretty much happened to everyone, if you live long enough.

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Jennifer Glass: And these decisions are things that can be revisited at any point in the future.

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Christine Smith: into, maybe early dementia at a point that you didn’t expect, and here you are still able to make your own decisions. You need to choose someone else to be your your delegate, your person that you practice communicating about these these

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Jennifer Glass: No, the term

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Christine Smith: with some sort of book or a service to people or an actual physical product that you can purchase.

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Christine Smith: And it’s like. Oh, if only I had this years ago, or if only my my dad had had this. So i’m finding these people, and they’re in my H category, and better

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Christine Smith: So it’s just it’s like, do you want longevity? And it’s like, yeah, that’s why I’ve been trying to be healthy and careful, and you know, and planning for my future. So, You would like to continue so. These people

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Christine Smith: and those people are creating benefits

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Christine Smith: connecting these people or creating conferences, or they’ve actually made a physical product that is going to help so much with some of these issues of aging that almost seem crippling or embarrassing.

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Christine Smith: either help you or they’re interfering. It’s kind of. How do you feeling about this right now? It’s like? No, I have something for that. I’ve got that cover, and it’s like

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Christine Smith: make things better for my aging loved one. So these people are seniors who are benefiting seniors

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Christine Smith: in some sort of business capacity. They’re they’re selling it. They’re offering it. People can get memberships with them. whatever it is. You know there’s there have been

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Christine Smith: In the third third of my life. So that’s why I also call myself the aging enthusiast. So I think it as you age. If you do it intentionally. You just get more and more enthusiastic. And I’ve known these people 96 years old and they’re still saying things like

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Jennifer Glass: Thank you. And

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Jennifer Glass: I believe that our listeners definitely got an incredible amount of value

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Jennifer Glass: So, Christine, how can people find out more about you?

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Christine Smith: Hooray! That one’s easy. The 3 words to remember

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Christine Smith: Rather than relying on other people, you would have that knowledge ahead of time before you went into another culture for a vacation, so that you could say I prepared for this. Oh, look! I’ve got that covered, and I don’t need to rely on other people and just say, they’ll take care of me when I get there.

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Christine Smith: You’re helping me to get over the fear.

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Christine Smith: and that’s the new and improved version right now that some of you have worked with this look. It’s even better. Yes, it’s a second edition. That’s the way to make it work.

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Jennifer Glass: and your biggest supporters.

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Jennifer Glass: no matter what you’re doing.

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Jennifer Glass: Christine. You know I am one of your biggest cheerleaders.

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Jennifer Glass: and I want to see this book.

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Jennifer Glass: and I know it’s going to be an incredible success.

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Jennifer Glass: So remember to check out aging Better networkcom.

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Jennifer Glass: and that information will be in the description for the show as well.

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Jennifer Glass: connect with Christine also on Linkedin. She’s got some incredible information that she puts out

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Jennifer Glass: and connect with her, and tell her that you heard about her on the Mojo podcast.

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Jennifer Glass: Let her know that this is really making a difference, and that you are connecting because you understand the value of pre-planning.

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Jennifer Glass: On that note. This has been another episode of MOJO: The Meaning of Life and Business, and until next time here’s to your success.