Unleashing Your MOJO: Cracking the Code with Ellen Bereza’s Rapid Transformational Therapy

Welcome back to another episode of MOJO: The Meaning of Life and Business! I’m your host, Jennifer Glass, and today we have an incredibly insightful guest joining us. Ellen Bereza, a certified hypnotherapist and expert in rapid transformational therapy, is here to help us crack the code to unlocking a happier and more fulfilled life.

In this episode, Ellen takes us on a journey into the power of the subconscious mind and how hypnotherapy can help access our natural states of hypnosis. She explains how the mind works, the importance of conscious thoughts, and the profound impact that positive thinking can have on our well-being.

Ellen also shares her own personal story of adversity and loss, and how she took responsibility for her own happiness. She provides valuable insights from her own life experiences and the teachings of thought leaders, offering practical tools and techniques to shift our mindset and attract positive experiences.

Through her work with clients, Ellen has witnessed remarkable transformations ranging from increased productivity and confidence to the elimination of destructive habits. She specializes in helping middle-aged women overcome self-doubt, low self-esteem, and body image issues through her course “femme fulfilled”.

Join us as we dive deep into the power of the mind, the law of attraction, and the limitless possibilities that lie within our reach. It’s time to crack the code and unlock our true potential. Stay tuned and let’s get started on this transformative journey.

About my guest: Ellen Bereza lost both her parents to illness by the time she was 24. If that wasn’t hard enough, 9 months after her dad died, Ellen got the first symptom of what she would discover was the same disease that took him out. That dis-ease got pretty bad for her in recent years. It made Ellen’s physical and mental state unbearable. That was a pivotal point in her life She realized that no matter what her circumstances were, no one was going to come save her. She’s quoted as saying: “No one and nothing but ME could make me happy” It sparked something in Ellen to find ways to constantly and consistently improve who she is and create her desired future life. Ellen has gained valuable insight from the tough times, the lessons she’s learned from life experiences (sometimes forced upon her!), continued learning about how the mind and universe work, and teachings from thought leaders along the way. Her passion has always been to help others. Now she’s sharing these lessons, these universal truths, with YOU so that you can create a better life on all levels and tap into your infinite possibilities

Connect with Ellen on Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, and on the web at http://www.ellenbereza.com

Key topics:

Topic 1: Introduction to Hypnotherapy and Rapid Transformational Therapy

– Hypnotherapy as a way to access the subconscious mind

– Ellen Bereza’s specialization in rapid transformational therapy

– The use of hypnotherapy to resolve issues in 1-3 sessions

Topic 2: Process of Hypnotherapy and Emotional Release

– Subconscious mind revealing scenes from the client’s life

– Breaking free from emotional attachments through hypnotherapy

– Creation of new neural pathways and personalized recordings

Topic 3: Hypnotherapy for PTSD and Trauma

– Addressing core emotions related to trauma

– Emotional release and healing through hypnotherapy

– The limitations of erasing traumatic experiences

Topic 4: Ellen Bereza’s Life Journey and Personal Growth

– Ellen’s loss of parents and acceptance of responsibility for happiness

– Insights gained from life experiences and thought leaders

– Becoming a certified hypnotherapist and changing beliefs

Topic 5: Ellen Bereza’s Hypnotherapy Services

– Ellen Bereza’s promotion of hypnotherapy services

– Introduction to “femme fulfilled” course for Gen X women

– Contact information for Ellen Bereza’s services

Topic 6: Conclusion and Resources for Mental Health Support

– Encouragement to consider personal issues and make changes

– Crisis hotline number (988) for immediate help in the United States

Transcript (auto-generated; may contain errors):

Jennifer Glass:

Hello and welcome to another episode of Mojo: The Meaning of Life and Business. A lot of times we hear “YOLO”, you only live once. We hear so many other ideas that are so similar to this exact premise. But we forget sometimes what it means to really be living an amazing life. To be living a life that we, at the end can actually be happy about. Instead of just going through the motions every day and trying to get to the end goal. So I have a really great guest who’s going to help us kind of figure out what it means to actually be living that great life. And a couple of the things that we can do to be getting there.

Jennifer Glass:

But before I bring her on, let me tell you a little bit about her. Ellen Bereza lost her parents to illness by the time she was 24. If that wasn’t hard enough, 9 months after her father died, Ellen got the first symptom of what she would discover was the same disease that took him out. That disease got pretty bad for her in recent years. It made Ellen’s physical and mental state unbearable. There was a pivotal point in her life where she realized that no matter what her circumstances were, no one was going to come to save her. She’s quoted as saying, no one and nothing but me could make me happy. It sparks something in Ellen to find ways to constantly and consistently improve who she is and create her desired future life.

Jennifer Glass:

Ellen has gained valuable insight from the tough times the lessons that she’s learned from life experiences, which were sometimes forced upon her, and continued learning about how the mind and universe work the teachings from thought leaders along the way. Her passion has always been about helping others. Now she’s sharing these lessons, these universal truths, with you so that you can create a better life on all levels and tap into your infinite possibilities. Ellen, welcome to the show.

Ellen Bereza:

Thank you for having me.

Jennifer Glass:

Absolutely. Thank you. So let me jump right in here. And just first of all, we just heard about the disease that got your father and that 9 months later, you found out. And this was a big precipice to all of the things that you’re dealing with right now. Right?

Ellen Bereza:

Yeah. Absolutely. Yes.

Jennifer Glass:

Can you tell us more? Obviously, I’m not trying to violate HIPAA or anything. But

Ellen Bereza:

You’re not violating HIPAA. That’s funny you say that. It’s not like you work for a doctor’s office. Then then you’d be violating HIPAA. Yes. So here’s the deal. Sclerosis before they had any treatments or anything to help him. And I’m I’m assuming, I don’t have the records, that he had a very aggressive, primary, a case of it.

Ellen Bereza:

So 9 months later, I had the first symptom of what I was later to discover was also MS, and I ignored it because I was in denial For a long time, and I proceeded to think negatively. I I just always complained, and it was always negative. And even though innately, I’m, you know, I’m a positive gal. The the symptoms started getting worse, and still I was in denial, and still I did nothing about it. The point is many years went by. I’m talking, like, 20 something years, and then then it started to affect the way that I walk and the way that I move to the point that I started needing a cane to even just move a few steps. I was like, my balance is completely off just holding onto walls to make it into the bathroom. Just awful.

Ellen Bereza:

So that’s what I’ve been dealing with. So I finally succumb to going on the medication, but I realized at that point, you know what? I’m miserable. What am I gonna do about that? This this is you know, I don’t wanna say this is just my life now because that’s that’s not who I am, and I’ve always been innately happy inside even though I had those yucky thoughts going on in my head. So I decided I’ve always been very fascinated with how the universe works. I’ve always been fascinated with how the mind works. Since I was in my pre teens, I used to listen to these subliminal recordings that this man made called Bernie Konikoff, his name was. And he had these subliminal recordings, and I loved them. So I decided to work further with that, and so I became a certified hypnotherapist.

Ellen Bereza:

I wrote a course, and I really changed the way I felt, and miraculously, my life started changing just by changing the way that I thought. Your thoughts have an electrical charge, And we can go more into that, but, I changed the way that I thought. I changed the way that I felt. I got rid of the false beliefs that I’ve been carrying around with me since Probably before I was even born. Who knows if they were generational or what have you? But the point is, now I’m happy regardless of my circumstances, I’m getting better and better every day in every way because I expect that I will. I I don’t think I’m a victim. I expect that I will get better. I always say that everything’s working out for my my highest good and it is.

Ellen Bereza:

So that’s kind of where we are now.

Jennifer Glass:

I am glad that things are going well in that regard. So, you know, good. So Ellen, let me ask you. When we look at those infinite truths and you kinda touched on them and getting rid of the negative thoughts. Yep. Is it through hypnotherapy that really got you at that point. Was it just a belief in yourself that you can get rid of those thoughts, I mean, how did you really start? Like, all right, shut up those thoughts. Let me get rid of them.

Jennifer Glass:

What was it that really got you to that point? Because I mean we all have negative thoughts and some even more than others.

Ellen Bereza:

Yes. So, you know, focusing on the present moment sounds like, okay, great, but I’m dealing with this right now. How can I focus on the present moment? Well, there’s several different ways you can do that. Finding things to be grateful for is number 1. The little things. I can breathe. I have a bed to sleep in. I’m I’m, you know, I have a home to live in.

Ellen Bereza:

Anything. Like, I just had a chocolate chip cookie and I love chocolate chip cookies. Whatever it is. Anything that’s gonna make your mind think positive thoughts because your mind works not unlike Netflix in the way that when you’re on Netflix, if you’re always going to put in, I want to watch dark dramas, like murderous shows, that Netflix is gonna say, how about this? You wanna watch this? How about this? You wanna watch this? All along the same lines. And it’s gonna keep offering those to you until you change the command and say, no. No. No. Now I wanna watch romantic comedies.

Ellen Bereza:

Okay. Oh, is that what we’re doing now? Okay. And your mind works the same way. Only 5% of everything you are and everything you do is run by your conscious mind. Everything. 95% is your subconscious mind. And the reason why that’s so important is because every thought that you think incites your brain to produce a chemical. So if you’re thinking negative thoughts all the time or, you know, awful thoughts like whatever, like self sabotaging behavior, self doubts.

Ellen Bereza:

Like, who am I to be talking about this? Who am I to have a podcast? Who am I to teach other people this stuff? Whatever it is that you’re thinking, like, I’m not attractive active enough or I’m getting older and who’s gonna want me? Whatever it is, then your brain’s gonna start producing those those stress hormones, the stress hormones, the stress hormones. That’s all our emotions are, are the chemicals that our brain produces and that course throughout our body. So if you switch that, and, PS, let me rewind and say, when you’re thinking those negative thoughts, your brain’s gonna say, yeah. You’re right. We do look gross. And remember when that guy broke up with us in 1997? Remember how horrible you felt? And you remember the other day when you’re on the bus and you smiled at that person, they didn’t smile back at you? It must have been something you did. Maybe you didn’t look good. Like and that’s what your brain does.

Ellen Bereza:

So if you start thinking positively, then your brain starts producing the and the positive chemicals like the, oxytocin and, serotonin and all these or excuse me, dopamine and all these things, and then that’s what’s coursing throughout your body so that if you’re thinking happy thoughts, your brain is gonna give that back too like Netflix. Hey. You’re feeling good. Oh my god. Remember that funny joke somebody told you the other day? And this is how your mind works. Whatever you give to it, it will get back To you. That’s how you feel better.

Jennifer Glass:

Thank you. And that is really important to keep in mind because you can, shift your attitude to shift your mindset. And, I mean, one of the things that I’ve said very often, just even go outside for a walk, change your 4 feet around you, and things are going to change around you.

Ellen Bereza:

Absolutely. And you can fake it till you make it. I know some people are like, no. I don’t want to fake. Why not? Why not? You know, obviously if you have a strong feeling something happened, someone passed away, you’re gonna feel it. But then you process it and you move on. Force yourself to smile. Force yourself to think positive thoughts because eventually it will come naturally.

Ellen Bereza:

At first, it’ll seem forced, but the brain learns by repetition. The more you do something, the more your brain gets used to it, and that’s how it learns. Repetition builds retention. That’s why learning a language, playing a musical instrument, practicing a sport, or even like rehab after an injury. Your brain learns by repetition. So whatever you’re given it and whatever you’re teaching it is what it is presenting to you. Know what I mean?

Jennifer Glass:

Absolutely. Thank you. And the other thing just to, by the way, keep in mind is the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between reality and what it sees. And one thing just to illustrate this example is, or this point, is something that I do with all of my clients, especially when I start working with them. And that is, I ask them to close their eyes and to envision that they are at a point. You know what, Ellen? Let me do it with you. So please close your eyes. And I want you to envision you’re 90 years old or whatever advanced age that is.

Jennifer Glass:

You’re looking at yourself in the mirror. And keep in mind, you are 90 years old. Tell me who you see.

Ellen Bereza:

I see a lady who maybe has some wrinkles on her face, but innately is very happy. She’s lived a wonderful life. She experienced what you want to experience. She has helped so many people change their lives, and that’s helped me change my life. And I I’m surrounded by love. I’m surrounded by family and and people that that care about me and support me. And I feel like I I’ve lived a really good life, and I if I were to die today, I’d be okay with that.

Jennifer Glass:

And so your legacy is having helped so many people through the years achieve what they were trying to do. Yep. And so you can open open up your eyes at the moment. And normally, what I would do is I would press a little bit more for my clients because I wanna get more in terms like, what did you do? How did you get to this place? What did you do in the community? What are you known for? Things along those lines. But the idea behind that is that it’s really important to keep in mind, am I at this point when I’m 90 years old now? Or am I here? At whatever age you are at the moment. And the reason it’s important is because once you create that image, and if you keep going back to that image, you create neural synapses that put you at that place. And so if the subconscious mind can’t tell the difference between reality and what it sees, the brain is going to pivot every time you try to zig, the brain is going to zag if you’re going the wrong direction to get you to where you have to be at 90 years old. And so it’s really important, keep that idea going on in your mind because it is ultimately going to help you get to that stage that you know in your subconscious mind because you just did it now and you’re going to keep doing it to get to that point when you’re 90.

Jennifer Glass:

So you’re creating different neural pathways that are going to get there. Just like changing the Netflix. You go from dark content to the Chimflakes to the rom coms. It’s gonna be going in that direction. And that’s gonna be the way that the brand is gonna be taking you, which again is another way of short not sure wiring. Rewiring. Rewiring. Thank you.

Jennifer Glass:

The way to where you have to go. And so or yeah, so when you go there, keep in mind, how are you going to do that? What are you going to do? How is that going to make a difference? So let’s move on though and get to all of these things that you were dealing with. So you found a way to get past the, oh my god. I can’t believe I got this disease and I can’t believe that this has happened. You gave in but you didn’t let it get you. You took steps to, figure out exactly how to deal with it.

Ellen Bereza:

Oh, for a while, I didn’t let it get me. For a while, I I had some really dark days, very dark days, where I didn’t even wanna live anymore. So it it did get to me. It did, but I realized that’s not that’s not it. That I’m not going out like that kind of thing. So I did what I had to do to bring more of what I love into my life and remove the things that were toxic for me. People, situations, remove them from my life. And so that’s kinda how, you know, I kinda was able to get myself where I am.

Ellen Bereza:

And what you just said about the you mind the what what I think you were trying to say with with how the mind works is not you know, it doesn’t know the difference between reality and what you imagine, not really what you see, but what you imagine. But your imagination is so much more vast than your knowledge. Knowledge is finite. The imagination goes on and on and on and on. I I think and I can’t remember the exact quote, but Einstein said something about that. You know, whatever you anything that was invented Anything that was invented, somebody thought of and imagined first. You know? So it’s kinda cool when you think about it that way.

Jennifer Glass:

Absolutely is.

Ellen Bereza:

So that’s where I am today. And that’s why I realized, you know, nothing’s perfect. Life is not perfect. Even still, there’s sometimes I’m like, you know, because I’m human. I’m like, I don’t like this. But then I I quickly remind myself with the different tools and techniques that I teach of how to get back to good. Because the one thing I do wanna share with you that’s, there’s a refractory period, right? When something bad happens. Animals in the wild.

Ellen Bereza:

Let’s just say a lion is chasing a zebra, right, and he’s gonna have it for lunch, and the zebra’s running running running. It’s in fight or flight mode, and it’s running and it’s running and it’s running, and then finally it outruns the lion. So the lion goes back to doing his thing, the zebra’s like, and then it goes back to grazing. The zebra doesn’t go to his zebra friends a week from now going, oh my god. Remember when I was chased by that lion last week? Like, they don’t do that. Humans do that. So when we go through things, it’s okay to experience them, but then you have to move on and say, okay. That happened, but, you know, all is well.

Ellen Bereza:

Everything is working out for my highest good. From this situation, only good will come, and I am safe. And if you say those kinds of things to yourself, especially the everything’s working out for my highest good all the time, it brings you back to that homeostasis of, like, okay. Alright. Bad things happen, but I can get through it.

Jennifer Glass:

Thank you. And absolutely, you’ve got to remember that what you’re dealing with at the moment is not permanent. That there is a way to change whatever the situation is.

Ellen Bereza:

Mhmm.

Jennifer Glass:

So let me ask you. I mean, in terms of the hypnotherapy, the way that you’re helping people. Tell me more about what you’re doing and how that actually helps people.

Ellen Bereza:

Absolutely. So there’s a big stigma around hypnosis. People like, oh, you know, I’ve had people say, you know, are you gonna make me cluck like a chicken? Am I gonna rob a bag? Am I gonna kiss the person sitting next to you? Like, all kinds of I’ve had so many crazy things. But the truth is we go in and out of natural states of hypnosis all day long. When you wake up in the morning and you go to bed at night, if you’re engrossed in a movie and you hear the phone ringing, you know, kind of jump, if you’re daydreaming, these are all natural states of hypnosis. And the reason why I say that is because it’s natural and everyone can be hypnotized. Depth of trans does not correlate to how well you will do with hypnosis. It’s just a matter, again, of the repetition of the mind.

Ellen Bereza:

So what I do is a specific type of hypnotherapy called rapid transformational therapy. You usually can resolve issues between 1 3 sessions. Most oftentimes, it’s just in 1 session and that’s it. And especially the types of things that I’m focused on now, it’s 1 session. So what I do is I gently bring people down at diagnosis just relaxing. They’re awake and alert. Their eyes are closed, but we’re having conversation. They’re not, like, knocked doubt and they can’t talk to me like unconscious.

Ellen Bereza:

They’re in in fact, they’re they’re more alert because they don’t we bypassed the conscious chattering mind. We’re accessing the subconscious mind and whatever the issue the person is dealing with. Let’s say they have a phobia. Let’s say they’re afraid of flying. And so we’ll say, when did this begin? When did the sphere of flying begin for for Ellen? And so that person would their subconscious mind will show them scenes from their life, almost like they’re looking at a movie, and sometimes it has nothing to do with why they think. Everybody always thinks, oh, I know why I’m dealing with this, but you may not. That’s what your conscious mind is telling you. So your subconscious mind will come up with scenes from your life, and we go to, like, 3 or 4 or 5 scenes depending on the situation.

Ellen Bereza:

And then once we have those scenes, I tell them to put the issue they’re dealing with in one hand, the 3 or 4 or 5 scenes in the other hand, and tell me what you think the correlation is. And every time that I’ve done it, people are always like, I get it. They get it. And I sometimes I’ll help them along, but They they get it. So what we do is once we kind of get it because it’s not the experiences in your life that cause your current issues. It’s the emotions that you’ve attached to those experiences and those emotions that your body feels, which again are the chemicals. Your body gets addicted to those chemicals, so for the rest of your life, you seek out other experiences that will elicit that same chemical response, those same emotions, that same feeling like poop. So I use different tools and techniques and and mental work to kind of break that person free of that emotional chemical addiction to that emotion.

Ellen Bereza:

And we we resolve and remove at its core the foundation of that issue. So once that’s gone, then we install all the good stuff. We create the new neural pathways. I create a personalized, customized, recording for them With their name, with with the things that they need to hear, the things that they’ve told me through different, when we do our intake initially, different things that they tell me that they want. I incorporate that into the recording, And they will listen to that recording at least once a day for a minimum. They say 21 days. I say 28 because I feel like a minimum of of a month. Just listen to it even if it’s just before you go to bed.

Ellen Bereza:

Doesn’t matter if you fall asleep. Your subconscious mind hears everything and your your mind will remember And it will heal you, and you will you will come out a different person. So that’s why

Jennifer Glass:

me ask you because I’m really curious. If you have PTSD

Ellen Bereza:

Mhmm.

Jennifer Glass:

As a result of a global tragedy. Right? And I’m, I wanna pick on myself for a moment here. So I have diagnosed PTSD related to 9/11. I’m a 911 survivor. And for me, I see certain things, like, if I see a plane flying near the New York Scott New York City skyline, I go right back to that moment when I saw the plane fly into the building. And I’ve had panic attacks getting on planes. Mhmm. Like, if I’m sitting in the gate, especially, you know and I’ll share.

Jennifer Glass:

I fly out of Newark Airport as my home airport. And if I fly American Airlines out of Newark Airport, the terminal where Newark and it’s so funny saying terminal is where you go, but whatever. Yeah. But where the American Airlines terminal is and where the gates are, it faces New York City. And when the planes are coming in and taking off on the runway, you don’t really see like, there’s the spatial, you know, a huge space, but it just it mixes in because that’s what our depth perception is. Mhmm.

Ellen Bereza:

So

Jennifer Glass:

for me, that immediately brings me right back, you know, 22 years ago as of, you know, now we’re, talking, and I’m right back there in that same spot. And, you know or when I go from my monitoring visits and they do the stupid PTSD screeners on me. Luckily, I told them stop doing it, say stop. But, you know, got me right back to that point. Can that kind of therapy really take that PTSD and those issues and just get them out so that you can then start really truly healing in a way that’s not there, you know, otherwise.

Ellen Bereza:

Yes. I mean, I I understand what you’re asking me. I mean, obviously, it’s not gonna take that experience away, and you will remember it. Of course. You’re not gonna forget it.

Jennifer Glass:

I wish I could go. Okay. Yes.

Ellen Bereza:

You can. And and and you can’t you can’t forget things. Some people say forgive and forget it. No. You can forgive, but you can’t forget because it happened to you. You know, it’s you’re not gonna block it out of your mind. It’s not like that movie Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Remember that movie? Yes.

Ellen Bereza:

You saw that? Yes. It’s not like that. We don’t know how to do that. But, yes. You can remove the hold because most likely, even though you you dealt with that and that you’re thinking that’s the cause of where you are, there may have been something else prior to that that led to you feeling the way that you feel because of that. And I I don’t know how to explain that kind of any better than that, but we would have to, through hypnotherapy, we would work on that. We’d say, what, when did this feeling actually begin? And most often your brain will come up with scenes from your younger years. Just different things that have happened, different things you’ve heard, different things that People have said around you, to you, different all different things.

Ellen Bereza:

It could be a many different things. And then we would find out how to remove the emotional hold because it is something that’s upsetting to you. You were there. You know, you deal with it, and it’s not like you’re ever gonna forget it. But you certainly can move past that harsh feeling every time it happens so that you can feel at peace and kind of move on in your life and be able to leave that where it was, understand it, know what happened, but not feel that that harsh emotional that you’re feeling, which is the PTSD. You can work past that. Absolutely.

Jennifer Glass:

Thank you. So we’ve worked out that even the really traumatic instances can be dealt with on, the hypnotherapy like you said. Mhmm. So when you work with people, you said you’ll do the, hypnosis. You do the rapid transformational, I think, was what you said.

Ellen Bereza:

Yep. Rapid transformational therapy.

Jennifer Glass:

And you work with them, you go through that 28 days, they listen to everything. What are the kinds of responses that people have been coming back with after that month period.

Ellen Bereza:

Well, we will we will have another call, because the the it’s a 30 day program. So we’ll talk about how it you know, where they were before we met, how they were after because sometimes it takes time. People there’s 3 different ways they can recognize results. Right away, a little bit as time goes on, or they might look back 6 months from now and say, oh my god. My life was so different than compared to where it is now kind of thing. But everyone that I’ve worked with, I haven’t you know, someone just reached out to me, by the way, about PTSD from 911, somebody that was actually a first responder who still does that kind of thing, the 1st responding for all kinds of things and is devastated. But through the conversation, he just reached out. Through the conversation before I even did an intake with him, I discovered that he always feels like he has the you know, he feels like he’s failed when other people are hurt, that he can’t help them.

Ellen Bereza:

Like, it’s his responsibility to take care of the world, stemming back from other things we talked about from his childhood. So there are ways to I and I’m probably sidestepping what you just asked me, but, what what did what was what did you just ask me more specifically? Because I was about to go off on a tangent about that, and I don’t wanna do that. I wanna go come back to what we were talking about.

Jennifer Glass:

Let’s do the tangent, and then we’ll come back if it’s okay. I mean, the question was, like, what is it like in terms of what their life is like at that point.

Ellen Bereza:

Yes. So oh my gosh. So many different things. Somebody came to me because she actually is a coach, and she is a very she makes a lot of money doing what she does. But sometimes she has problems with productivity. She has problems with concentration and and focus and, you know, a little bit of the the imposter syndrome situation. And so after me you know, after working with me and and everything, she’s like, I can’t even believe how much more productive I am. And she’s like, I definitely know that working with you and listening to that recording has changed my life.

Ellen Bereza:

I know that I’m more productive. I’m more focused. I don’t beat myself up. That’s another thing is you make mistakes. Even if you you say, oh, you know, I wasn’t Even if they’re not productive one day, you don’t beat yourself up and say, oh, you know, I suck, and I can’t believe I did that, and I had so much work to do. No. You’re like, you know what? I didn’t do it, but I’m going to do it and here I am and but you’re not gonna beat yourself up over it, and that’s the thing. Perfection is never the goal.

Ellen Bereza:

The goal is always to feel good in as many moments of your life as you can. So that was 1. I’ve had people I had 1 woman come to me because since she was a child, she bit her nails to the nub where they would bleed. She’d have infection. She’d have to go to the doctor. And she said, all I want is that feminine nails. I want to have a manicure. I just wanna have nice a nice hands, a nice woman’s hands.

Ellen Bereza:

And so, you know, I did my magic with her and we we had the session, we had the recording, and then she was like, okay. And then she showed me. She’s like, she had a manicure. Her nails are all done. She’s like she’s like, I don’t even think about it anymore. I don’t even it’s it doesn’t even cross my mind. She’s like, I used to Catch myself working. I left my hand in my mouth.

Ellen Bereza:

Whatever. I left my hand in my mouth. She goes, now that’s not my go to thing. I don’t think about that anymore. My hands aren’t in my mouth. I don’t even she’s like, it just doesn’t cross my mind. And I’m like, well, we broke the addiction to that. Whatever was causing you to do that, we broke that emotional tie, and now you’ve got what you wanted.

Ellen Bereza:

And so that was awesome. That was pretty cool. I’m trying to think of different exciting things. But mostly just people that have mostly self doubt, low self esteem, people that have trouble establishing healthy boundaries, People that have body image issues, and that’s why I decided to work with, I told you, you know, sharp gen x women because I realized that’s who I am. These are the people I these are my friends, people I talk to all the time, and it seems like everyone has a lot of the same issues. It’s the self doubt. It’s the low self I’m getting older. Am I attractive? Am I smart? Am I funny? Am I enough? Am I cool? Am I who am I? Who you know? And those kind of things.

Ellen Bereza:

And those are the people I love helping because after I work with them, they’re like, they’re confident. They’re dressed in nicer clothes. It just you know, they just feel better. And when you feel better, you attract better. And that’s where the universal stuff that we were talking about earlier comes in. It’s not just your mind. It’s also working with the universe. And everything in the universe is made up of energy.

Ellen Bereza:

That’s a whole other conversation. But when you feel better, you’re raising your vibration. And that’s all the universe is made of energy, frequency and vibration. And your frequency is the level of how how how high, you know, how high or low your vibration is. So when you raise your frequency, you are matching things in the universe that are at that same frequency. When you’re low level, you’re thinking crappy thoughts, you’re only going to attract more along that same frequency. If you’re feeling good, you’re attracting that. And so when you feel better, you attract more of what you desire into your life, and you repel more of what you don’t that it doesn’t even cross your path.

Ellen Bereza:

Good stuff.

Jennifer Glass:

So you gotta do everything to keep the black cats walking under the ladders and all that stuff away from you.

Ellen Bereza:

Blackouts under ladders mean nothing. It’s all, you know what? There’s no such thing as positive and there’s no such thing as negative. Human beings make that. Everything just is as it is. Have you ever heard that old Chinese parable about that, Amount thinking? I’ll just tell you really quickly. So there was an old Chinese farmer who, he had a farm and he had a horse. And one day the horse ran away. And or actually, he saved up for a year to buy the source.

Ellen Bereza:

That’s what it was. He saved up for a year to buy the horse. He buys the horse. The next day, the horse ran away. So the neighbors came by and they’re like, oh my god. You lost your horse. What are you gonna do? You know, are you gonna be okay? He goes, good news or bad news? I cannot say. So the next day, the horse comes back and brings with it another horse, and his son says, Yay! Now we’re going to be able to dump our farm income and everything’s going to be great.

Ellen Bereza:

And he’s like, good news or bad news? I cannot say. So then the next day, the they were the father the Farmer was taking the 1 horse to break him and his son was riding behind him on the other horse. Something happened. The other horse threw the son off and he ended up breaking his leg. And and of course his wife was like, oh, no. What are we gonna do? How are we gonna pay for this? You know, he said, listen. Good news or bad news, I cannot say. And then the next day, the king sent some men out to everybody’s home and said, listen.

Ellen Bereza:

There’s a war. We need all able-bodied men. We need everybody to fight, fight, fight. And, his son couldn’t go because his son had a broken leg. So then his neighbors came by and said, oh my god. Aren’t you so lucky? He didn’t have to do that. And he said, good news or bad news? I cannot say. And the whole point of the story is whenever something happens that’s bad, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s bad.

Ellen Bereza:

It might be saving you from something worse. And just because something amazing happens doesn’t mean that you you have to kind of understand that things happen to bring you to something else. Do you understand what I mean by that? I don’t know if I’m making sense or I’m making it sound depressing, but it it’s not depressing. The thing is, like, if you miss your flight and you’re trying to get home and all you wanna do is get home and you miss that flight. By sitting there in the airport and realizing, shoot, I have to wait 4 hours for the flight, you might meet another traveler who also missed their flight and all of a sudden you just met the love of your life. So you can’t you always have to change your perception of things and know that even if things don’t seem like they’re going your way, give it time. Give it time, and let it see how it plays out. Don’t always just assume everything sucks and everything’s messed up because that’s not the case.

Ellen Bereza:

Just saving you for something better.

Jennifer Glass:

Right. And it’s so interesting how you put that because, I mean, for me, personally, I know, what got me and just going back to 911, what got me to, the place where I was working and what got me to, not be on one of the planes flying out to California that day was because I was going between 3 job offers just a month before, and I took the one that had me stand on the corner wall in Broadway instead of one that was in the building across the street or another one where I would have been on potentially on a plane flying out to California that could have been one of the hijacked planes. So I mean, in that regard, I totally hear exactly what you’re saying. You didn’t get this. You were over here, so you didn’t get that. And I definitely hear you on I mean, it just brings back there was also a scene in the TV show a 1000000 little things where that’s exactly what happened with John and Delilah where he missed the flight and, you know, ended up meeting his future wife. So, yes. Definitely get exactly what you’re saying there.

Ellen Bereza:

Yeah. There’s there’s, there’s definitely been some amazing things that have happened in my life just from, you know, when I thought things were awful, and it’s like, no. No. I’m gonna show you just how good they can be. And so it’s just all a matter of what you put out there. Really, it’s a matter of what you put out there. It sounds so simple. You know? It sounds like, of course you can do that, you know? But I can’t stop thinking about x y z, but you can because the only thing that any of us have any control over is our thoughts.

Ellen Bereza:

Otherwise, you have no control over anything else. Just your thoughts.

Jennifer Glass:

Absolutely. And thank you. So, Ellen, let me ask you. People want to know more about the hypnotherapy and the service that you do offer. Mhmm. How can they find out more?

Ellen Bereza:

Well, they can reach out to me at atellenberiza.com, which is e l l e n, b as in boy, e r e, z as in zebra, a.com. They can always reach out to me on Facebook, Ellen Bariza. You know, I’m there. I’m all over. Even I’m at Ellen Barries on Instagram as well. But, you know, It’s it’s more than just hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy is personalized, but I think I told you I I do I have a course that I wrote as well which really, it’s just short video short bite sized videos. There’s no like it’s not like a course where you have to log in at a certain time of day or anything like that.

Ellen Bereza:

You just do it at your leisure. It’s very relaxed, and I talk about all the different methods and ways to change the way that you think. So whereas hypnotherapy is very focused, I work with somebody that’s customized to them and their main number one thing that they want to work on, but the course is more generalized in telling you how to think and elevate your life in all aspects of your life. And so with those 2 combined, are actually called I call that femme fulfilled. That’s the name of my program. And I I focus on very sharp Gen X women helping them elevate their lives by changing the way they think, changing those false beliefs, changing the way they perceive, which in essence will help them change the way they feel. And I do that by using my course and the hypnotherapy combined, and, it’s been shown to work wonders. People are loving it, and I’m gonna be broadcasting all of it.

Ellen Bereza:

I just created a brand new website, actually, which is gonna be released soon. Still have a website. Still have a website, which is just fine for now, but I tell people to keep keep stay tuned so they could see the new one because the new one’s really beautiful. But yeah. So that’s at ellenbariza.com.

Jennifer Glass:

And, hopefully, by the time you are listening to this, the new site should hopefully be launched.

Ellen Bereza:

Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. It’s gonna launch soon. So I don’t know how long it takes for this to actually, be broadcast. But It’s

Jennifer Glass:

gonna be a couple of weeks. But Okay. You know, we’ll get it out and, yeah. So again, definitely check out Ellen bariza.com. Reach out to Ellen on Facebook, LinkedIn, Insta also so that you can, certainly be touching base, seeing more in terms of what you really need to be doing. Mhmm. Because it is going to be really important. You want to be living your best life.

Jennifer Glass:

You want to be here. You want to be seeing what you need to be seeing what you want to be seen even if you need just to change a little bit so you can, like Ellen said, get to a higher frequency. So that the better stuff is coming to you and you leave all the other stuff behind. That is our wish for you that that is exactly gonna be where you are going to be. So, Ellen, thank you so much for being my guest today.

Ellen Bereza:

Thank you. Thank you so much for having me. I really appreciate it.

Jennifer Glass:

Absolutely. Thank you. And as we wrap up our episode for today, think about where you’ve been. What are those issues that you have been fight, fighting? What are those issues that have you, that you have been challenged by? How can you change those little things that were there in the past and get to where you are? If you’re a short Gen X woman, definitely Ellen is where you want to be and where you want to be going for her film fulfilled course at Ellenbereza.com. If you’re a man, if you’re not in that group, there’s plenty of opportunities also, for you to be getting the exact kind of service and value and hope that you are seeking too. And if you’re here in the United States, I just have to, point out 988 if you need it. Reach out. They’re the crisis counselors at any time if you are at any point, that you cannot get other help 988 text call.

Jennifer Glass:

You can immediately get the help that you need. If you’re outside the United States, I apologize. I don’t know that, way to help you there, but there are counselors all over the place that are there for you. And remember, we are here to help you get to a better place. At the end of the day, we believe that God put us on this planet to do better, to leave it in a better place than we found it. That means how can we help everyone get better? How can we help everyone live their best lives? That is exactly what we are here for. And on that note, this has been another episode of Mojo: The Meaning of Life and Business. And until next time, here’s to your success.